Hello friends, how body? I believe you have been doing well in this our Buhari economy. It’s like everything around us in Nigeria at a time like this has something to do with Buhari. But, you know what, pals? This too shall pass. How long it will take is what we may not know but it is a certainty that we’ll get past this period. Victorious and still living, of course. Don't lose your enthusiasm.
So I started a post on my top ten list of most impactful Christian and self-development books last week. In this week’s post, I’ll be giving the remaining five. I hope the list pushes you to read (if you have not read any or some of them) and read some more (if you have read all ten already).
#6 The Law of Recognition by Mike Murdock
This is my first Murdock book and I have not yet recovered from it. I referred to it in my ‘Boosting your Self Image’ post.
In the Law of Recognition, you find laws that can help you recognise things as the voice of the Holy Spirit, an uncommon mentor, a God-inspired idea, your assignment, your dominant weakness and a whole lot of other important things. It is not a fat book but it’s got thirty one chapters.
I think it should be read more than twice. I have only had one read by the way.
#7 Point Man by Steve Farrar
Yes, I am a Steve Farrar person! I remember being called point man by a friend of mine while I read this book. There was this feeling of manly pride that broke out from within whenever she called me that. God is actually, through Farrar, raising a generation of point men.
Like some of the books I read that season, Farrar pushed me to study the Word and pray more and also to be more accountable. I love the part where he refers to his being raised by an oak of righteousness, his dad. How I desire to be that kind of parent to my kids!
I still have a chapter left unread though situations have thrown me into the book a couple of times. I hope to read that chapter soon. It must be said, however, that Point Man should be read by not just men…
#8 Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer
Two things about Joyce Meyer I like. One, sincerity. She’s open enough to share her own experiences, struggles and even more.
Battlefield of the Mind is one book that will help you understand the power God has imbued in our minds and most importantly, the fact that our minds need to be aligned to scriptures if we must be fruitful at all.
I should add that you can’t be a slow reader when reading Meyer.
#9 The Principles and Power of Vision by Dr. Myles Munroe
Deep insights into the mystery that vision is are what this book contains. So many points need to be read and re-read and re-re-read… It is one of the books I think should be read early enough in life.
This is what I am reading now and (God!) what we have therein is mind-blowing. I learnt it is one of the books in a series. I’ll definitely get the remaining books when next I am stocking. This is a must-get book for a child of God. It is a book that recounts some visions the author had. As much as it revolves around the life eternal, it addresses in clear terms, issues that pertain to living right while we remain on this terrestrial ball.
I look forward to hearing for you in the comments section. Thanks for reading and do enjoy the rest of the week. Keep reading!
Happy New Year, friends! And happy Valentine’s day celebration too. As always, I’ve really missed you guys. You know what? No more long breaks this year. I mean that. How are you celebrating valentine at your end? Hope you are sharing something sha? It’s a season to share, you know. Don’t wait for givers biko. Be a giver yourself!
So, in this post, I’ll be sharing the books that have impacted me tremendously in the past two years. It seems to be a season of sharing one’s top kini kan number of books. I never knew people do that during Valentine (Valentine o!) until yesterday when I saw this. And it’s really nice.
Prompted by a Facebook post of my brother, Bode-Badaki Olufemi, some of my other friends have been sharing books that have been helpful over the years, predominantly Christian and self-development books in the past few days. Truth is, my love for books has always been restricted to the literary circle and if I love a book, kai, we must do book review o. Thanks to a friend like Joseph Omotayo of Critical Literature Review for providing the platform to share some of such reviews. If I don’t love the book nko? I don’t know about that one o but I know little of what it is to be called an evil book reviewer.
What was I saying? Yes, I was actually about saying that I’ll follow my friends’ model by providing my top-ten list of most impacting christian and self-development books though I’ll be doing mine in two posts.
Here we go, bookworms!
#1. FINISHING STRONG by Steve Farrar
The first among the many book gifts I got in my service year. You should get this book if you haven’t read it. Farrar writes with such ease that you find it difficult to drop his book until you have read to the last letter. I have read more than two and half times (the half accounting for the times I had to return to just a chapter or two of the book as a result of some situations I found myself in). And I should say that this wonderful book taught me to appreciate accountability in relationships. This has made me appreciate those God has placed in and over my life the more.
I recommend Finishing Strong to Christian leaders who know or don’t know what it means to finish well.
#2. THE PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE by RICK WARREN
Abuse is the surest prospect for a thing or being whose purpose is unknown. I had a very bleak perspective of purpose until I read Warren. The Purpose Driven Life is a thick book (my hard copy has 334 pages) so I found it hard to finish the first time I picked it. I re-read it last December and it was quite easy as I followed the author’s one day one chapter instruction. That way, it was easier plus it made more meaning. See why it’s good to follow instructions. By the time I reached the middle, I could take three, sometimes four chapters per day. I think it’s a book that’s worth reading early in life.
I got The Purpose Driven Life as a gift from a great great friend. This is me saying I am grateful.
#3. THE RICHEST MAN IN BABYLON by George S. Classon
Saving. That’s the greatest lesson I picked from Classon’s classic. I really don’t do books on finance. Ignorance oshi! I tried reading Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad Poor Dad early in life and, kai, it was a struggle. Why? I still can’t figure it out. I was kinda small then sha. Maybe I’ll try again. But Classon clicked like I-don’t-know-what.
The Richest Man in Babylon was recommended to me at a time when I really needed it. I was fresh out of NYSC and had just got a job. It helped me settle down fast when it comes to managing my income. Like The Purpose Driven Life, this ought to be read early in life too. I wish I had read this while in uni.
You can download the PDF format for free. Don't ask me how. Ask Google.
#4. BOY MEETS GIRL by Joshua Harris
If you know what it means for one’s heart to begin to do this gish gish dance step concerning relationship matters when it should be relaxed, you will understand what pushed me to get this book. Menh! This quote from the book is one of the many that did the mind-reset magic:
Patience is an expression of trust that God, the Master Chef, can serve up an exquisite relationship. This lets us enjoy each part of our love story. We can be faithful and content right where we are – whether it’s in friendship or courtship or engagement – and not try steal the privileges God has reserved for a later season…time is God’s way of keeping everything from happening all at once. If you’re not ready to get married, don’t grab at a relationship. Patiently wait for the right time to start one that can eventually lead to marriage. If you’re ready for marriage and you’re in a relationship, don’t let impatience cause you to rush. Take your time. Enjoy where God has the two of you right now. Savor each course. Don’t settle for mishmash.
Boy Meets Girl is a good Valentine’s day gift. #justsaying#
#5. LIVING BEYOND YOUR FEELINGS by Joyce Meyer
I love Joyce like kilode! Sorry. The book Living Beyond your Feelings is special. Really special. I remember being asked, ‘How far? Are you ok?’ when a friend saw this book with me. Dealing with one’s emotion is what the book is about. Everyone needs to read this.
You’ve read any of these books? What’s your view on them? Or you want to share your top (any number) list of books, let’s talk in the comments section. I’ll really love to hear from you. Thanks for reading and watch out for the second part.
I've been trying to murder a part of me, albeit unconsciously. It's painful to accept that that's what I've been up to but it is exactly what I’m doing. I've been squelching my writing side. It's annoying...really annoying. I can’t remember the last time I stringed two words together. Two words o! Whatever happened to that desire of becoming a writer, a full-time one at that, is what I can’t just puzzle out now. How I used to dream of being in a room, furnished to taste but with lots of books, correct internet access, crumpled papers and of course, my pen, note pad, laptop and common sense. Twenty-four hours, seven days! How dumb I must have been. God!
You know what? I love God. He loves me too. In fact, He loved me first. He loved me so much that He impregnated me with this writing thing. Did I say that? That's how you know I can't write simple ‘psss’ as things stand now, I can't find words to just capture my feeling. Yes, He impregnated me with this baby I've been trying to kill ('abort' does not just capture the feeling). This is it: I don't want to write but it comes to me. Like an unsatisfied lover. You don’t gerrit? The mere feeling of putting draft pieces (which I'm growing a cemetery for on Tobby, my long time mini-lappy-friend) gives me satisfaction but I don't get to finish those pisses. Shouldn’t that be ‘pieces’? Rewind and fix the right word, pleeeaaease. Why I don't finish those pieces, I can't still figure out but their ghosts and the spirits of the ones yet unborn (which I'll definitely not finish) have been haunting me. Truth be told, I'm sick.
I AM SICK.
I hate drugs; I've not been thinking drugs. Been thinking mum's meals, the hot, spicy ones (when unaffected by recession, I mean) and what miracles they can work more than anti-malaria. How I miss home?
I AM HOMESICK.
I am sick. But something says mum's food will do nothing. The same thing says writing this may be of help. Its per second shouts of ‘write…write…write', I’m beginning to think, is my headache and cold.
Here I am indulging a feeling I have consistently squelched, I hope I get well soon.
But I must not fail to say it, by the way, that I HATE WRITING.
But you love it
No, I hate it.
Yes, I love it. And I hope the pains it, alongside work-stress and my students, have brought stops altogether this night. My students need me back tomorrow morning.
I wish me a speedy recovery.
So, I’m here again. Like always, I have missed this space. Been really busy settling down in a new life, yeah, so many things are new to me right now. Details on that will come soon. But I have been fine. Trust you are doing good too.
I will be sharing a piece I had to do for a friend’s online platform. I have removed and added a few things. Enjoy it and please, share your thoughts. Have a nice week ahead.
Nothing makes one fulfilled than when one sees oneself for who one really is. And also the bonus feeling that comes with such perception of oneself: the desire to get better. A lot about us is tied to our self-image.
The problem with self-image for many people is that they have only viewed themselves the way people or circumstances have defined them. We live in a world where measures with which one can be weighed abound all around. Each day goes by with at least a person placing you on their scale. And boom! Right before you is (or are, as the case may be) what Tom or Jerry think (s) you are.
In such world, it becomes necessary that one’s self-image be at an all-time high. I have suffered pangs from emotional distress and esteem deficiency issues on account of how I found myself being viewed by people. Depending on one’s space, tens or hundreds of pairs of eyes view one every single day. For me, it is the latter. How do I drag myself into seeing me the way those other persons (hundreds!) do? I think doing that can only amount to a lifetime of worry and consequently, back-to-back dissatisfaction.
However, here is what I have come to discover, I am me. I can’t be anything else but me. What I see about me is what I am. That, by the way, does not mean I am almost-God or anything that captures such wrong belief.
As many as the factors that can be responsible for a negative or poor self-image can be, they are the least of the issues this piece will bother itself about. Rather, let’s have some of the ways one can boost one’s self-image as our focus:
Here we go:
Remember you are unique
You are you, different from anyone else. Stop comparing yourself with others.
Know you and your Purpose
You are what God has made you. When you have an understanding of this, you see a true image of you. God sees you only in the light of what He has put in you; what He has sent you to do here and the provisions He has made for you. Jesus needed nobody to tell Him who He is. No wonder He could assertively tell the devil He is the Lord while He was being tempted. He walked and worked in the understanding of His purpose too. Do you know yourself? And your purpose?
I discovered at a point in my life what I hear about me does a lot, too much even, to me. It definitely will disturb or delight me anyway. However, I have also come to realise that both comments could come from the most insincere hearts. Mark these: don’t be too disturbed by the negative ones; beware also of the joy that wells in you when you are lauded. Difficult? The next point will address the difficulty.
Be deliberate about surrounding yourself with positive people
Choose to be around those that are willing to see you get better. Not every person around you is worthy company. Positive people want to see you conquer your demons, always. That you are mileages from that point doesn’t matter to them. It takes a positive person to see beyond the ‘current obvious’ and to offer the right comments. Remember the scriptural twelve spies?
Focus more on your strengths
This does not in any way imply that you neglect your weaknesses and have them puncture your progress wheel continually. While you work at dealing with your weaknesses, can you take some more time to appreciate and maximise your strengths?
I remember Mike Murdock making a reference to how this works in his book, The Law of Recognition. Here is how he describes it:
Marilyn Hickey, my long-time friend, shared an interesting experience. She had just returned from China…China has the greatest Ping-Pong players on earth. So, she asked the master Mentors of their champions how they handled the weaknesses of their protégés. They explained that they ignore them, choosing rather to spend all of their teaching time on developing their dominant trait or gift to its highest level possible. They explained that if the dominant strength of a player received total focus, it would compensate for any weakness elsewhere in their form.
Read, listen…just develop
Feed on materials that will help you develop in your sphere of interest. Books, podcasts and other such materials are always around us, maximise them. Your dexterity in addressing issues in your sphere has a way of boosting how you view yourself. There is a consequential approval and confidence that comes with studying.
One of those things that help boost your self-image is the way you are dressed. One special way of making people come to terms with their newly acquired statuses in scriptures is to have them decked in special apparels. Remember Joseph and the prodigal son. While you dress like the king and queen that you are, don’t forget to be moderate. Look good and you’ll definitely feel good about you.
Prepare for contingencies
Your self-image is enhanced when eventualities come and you can handle them without giving away a sweat drop. It took a Joseph to save Egypt and surrounding nations during a seven-year drought. Be your own Joseph. SAVE! You can never be displeased with yourself for doing so.